data-driven insights into relationships and compatibility
The Love Formula data analysis evolved from an independent survey examining whether couples who remain together exhibit closer alignment in Values and Traits compared to those who break up. The survey was administered through Survey Monkey.​
The survey comprised three sections:
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Personal Profile: Age, sex, and relationship status
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Values: Self-evaluation and partner evaluation
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Traits: Partner evaluation
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Value & Trait Preferences
Top Values for Men
The bar chart details the top Values that men consider important in relationships, ranked by percentage.
The percentages indicate the relative importance of these Values, with a clear lead for Honesty/Dependability/Reliability. Interestingly, the Values that men have ranked in their Top Five all relate to foundational aspects of a relationship—trust, communication, intellect, family, and finances—suggesting that these are seen as the building blocks for a healthy and sustainable partnership. The fact that these Values are ranked above others may indicate that men are looking for more than just surface-level attributes in a partner, seeking deeper compatibility & shared life goals.
Honesty/Dependability/Reliability (19.8%)
This emerged as the most important Value, with nearly one-fifth of men ranking it as the most important. It suggests that men place a premium on trust and consistency in a partner, which are foundational for a stable relationship.
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Communication Style/Manners (12.4%)
Good communication and manners were the second most important Value, indicating that men greatly appreciate the way their partner interacts with others and expresses themselves, which is key to mutual understanding and respect.
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Education/Knowledge/Street Smarts (12.1%)
This closely followed communication style/manners in importance, showing that intellectual compatibility and the ability to apply knowledge and street smarts effectively is highly regarded among men.
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Family Values (10.9%)
Ranking fourth, this demonstrates the importance men place on a partner who shares a strong commitment to family life, suggesting that a partner’s orientation toward family is a significant consideration for long-term relationship prospects.
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Financial Choices (9.7%)
Completing the Top Five Values for men, this indicates that financial responsibility and similar attitudes toward money are important to a significant number of men, reflecting the practical side of partnership in terms of economic harmony.
Top Values for Women
The bar chart details the top Values that women consider important in relationships, ranked by percentage.
Both men and women ranked Honesty/Dependability/Reliability and Communication Style/Manners as the two most important Values in a relationship, indicating a shared belief that trust and effective dialogue are essential for a successful partnership. Women ranked Occupation/Work Ethic/Self-Discipline higher than men did, which could suggest that women see a partner’s professional life as more indicative of their overall character and suitability as a long-term partner. Financial choices were also a Top 5 Value for both, but women rated this slightly higher, possibly reflecting a concern for financial security and responsibility. Education/Knowledge/Street Smarts was a Top 5 Value for both genders, but men ranked it slightly higher than women, which could suggest that men place a bit more emphasis on intellectual compatibility. While the Top 5 Values were common between the genders, the differences in percentages indicate nuances in the degree of importance placed on these Values. For instance, women’s higher rating of Communication Style/Manners might reflect a greater emphasis on the emotional quality of the relationship.
Honesty/Dependability/Reliability (20.2%)
This was the most important Value among women and was slightly higher than it was for men (19.8%). It indicates that women place the utmost importance on trust and dependability in a partner.
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Communication Style/Manners (13.6%)
Women rated communication slightly higher than men (12.4%), which suggests that women may place a slightly greater emphasis on the manner and quality of interactions within a relationship.
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Occupation/Work Ethic/Self-Discipline (12.4%)
This closely followed communication style/manners in importance, showing that intellectual compatibility and the ability to apply knowledge and street smarts effectively is highly regarded among men.
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Education/Knowledge/Street Smarts (11.9%)
For women, this ranked fourth, whereas it was the third most important for men. Both genders value intellectual compatibility, but it seems men give it a slightly higher priority.
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Financial Choices (11.5%)
Women ranked this fifth in their list of prioritized Values, similar to men, but the percentage was slightly higher for women. This suggests that women are slightly more concerned with how a partner manages finances.
Top Traits for Men
The bar chart details the top Values that men consider important in relationships, ranked by percentage.
The preference for Traits such as Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness indicates that men are looking for meaningful connections based on mutual respect and care. The high ranking of Body Shape/Height/Appearance points to an inherent desire for physical attraction in a partner, which is a fundamental aspect of romantic relationships. The importance placed on Humor/Wit/Cleverness highlights a preference for a partner who can be light-hearted and fun. The ranking of Sexuality/Sensuality signifies the role of physical connection as a vital component of attraction. Last, the appreciation for Intuition/Good Instinct/Emotional Intelligence underscores the growing recognition of the importance of empathy and emotional connection in sustaining a relationship. Overall, these preferences suggest that men are seeking a balanced mix of moral, intellectual, emotional, and physical Traits in their partners, which together form the basis of a well-rounded and satisfying relationship.
Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (17.4%)
This Trait topped the list, with a significant percentage of men finding generosity, thoughtfulness, and kindness to be the most attractive. This suggests that men place high importance on the moral character of and warmth in a partner.
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Body Shape/Height/Appearance (15.4%)
Physical attributes were the second most appealing Trait for men. This indicates a strong visual component to attraction, with men placing importance on a partner’s physical presence and the aesthetic qualities they find attractive.
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Humorous/Witty/Clever (13.1%)
A good sense of humor and wit was the third most attractive Trait. This reflects men’s appreciation for a partner who can engage in playful banter and provide a light-hearted dynamic in the relationship.
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Sexual/Sensual (9.6%)
Sensuality and sexuality were the fourth-ranking Traits, emphasizing the importance of physical and emotional intimacy in attraction for men.
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Intuitive/Good Instinct/Emotionally Intelligent (8.6%)
Emotional intelligence, including intuition and good instincts, rounded out the Top Five Traits. This suggests that men appreciate the ability to understand and manage emotions, both their own and their partner’s, which is essential for a deep and connected relationship.
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Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (8.6%)
Passion, drive, and ambition tied for the fifth most important Trait at 8.6%, which suggests that men care about motivation and success, although it’s also moderately prioritized among other Traits. This reflects a balanced appreciation for ambition alongside other personal characteristics.
Top Traits for Women
The bar chart details the top Values that men consider important in relationships, ranked by percentage.
Both men and women placed a high priority on Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and Humor/Wit/Cleverness. This suggests the universal appeal of a compassionate partner with a sense of humor, which can be essential for building a positive and joyful relationship. Body Shape/Height/Appearance are important for both genders, but they were ranked higher by men (15.4%) than women (11.9%). This difference indicates that while physical attraction is universally significant, men may prioritize it more.
Traits associated with determination, such as Passion/Drive/Ambition, were featured prominently in the Top 5 Traits for both men and women. This indicates that both genders place a high value on motivation. Traits related to intellect (Intelligent/Sharp/Quick-Thinking) were in the Top Five Traits for women but did not appear in the men’s ratings, which might suggest that women place a slightly higher regard on smarts than men. Intuition/good instinct/emotional Intelligence was ranked highly by men (8.6%), whereas it was slightly lower for women (7.6%). This small difference could imply that while emotional intelligence is important for both genders, men might place a slightly higher importance on it. Social Traits (Social/Outgoing/Extroverted) appeared in the Top 5 Traits for women but not for men, indicating a possible gender difference in appreciation of social dynamics within relationships.
Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (16.9%)
The most attractive Traits for women in a partner were generosity, thoughtfulness, and kindness, suggesting a strong preference for altruism and warmth.
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Humorous/Witty/Clever (16.5%)
A good sense of humor and wit were almost equally as important, indicating that women place high importance on the ability to engage in playful and stimulating conversation.
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Body Shape/Height/Appearance (11.9%)
Physical attraction was important but ranked lower than generosity and humor, showing that while appearance matters, it is not the foremost quality for women.
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Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (8.9%)
Women are attracted to partners who are passionate and have clear ambitions, highlighting a desire for motivation and forward momentum in a partner.
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Intelligent/Sharp/Quick-Thinking (8.6%)
Intellectual sharpness and quick-thinking rounded out the Top Five Traits for women, demonstrating the significance placed on mental agility and acumen.
Top Traits for Men – By Age Group
Men’s preferred Traits evolve across their lifespan, highlighting shifting relationship needs. Young men (18–24) prefer Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and Humor/Wit/Cleverness, seeking partners who are vibrant and understanding. For men aged 25–34, body Shape/Height/Appearance gains importance alongside passion/drive/ambition, indicating a balance between aesthetic appeal and deeper personal qualities. By midlife (35–54), Intuition/Good Instinct/Emotional Intelligence becomes as critical as Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and Body Shape/Height/Appearance, showing a preference for emotionally fulfilling relationships. The emergence of sexuality/sensuality as a preferred Trait appears in men over 45. Men over 55 continue prioritizing Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and body Shape/Height/Appearance but increasingly prefer Traits that offer stability and comfort, such as being Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered. In their older years, men over 65 cherish companionship and emotional warmth, prioritizing Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness. This progression reveals a dynamic shift from appreciating vivacity in youth to seeking deep, stable connections in later life, emphasizing the enduring desire for meaningful relationships.​
18–24 Years
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Top Traits: Humorous/Witty/Clever (26.67%), Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (26.67%), Presence/Vibe (20%), Body Shape/Height/Appearance (13.33%), Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (13.33%)
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Among younger men aged 18–24, Humor/Wit/Cleverness and Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness were highly emphasized, signaling a strong preference for partners who are both engaging and empathetic. Body Shape/Height/Appearance and Passion/Drive/Ambition also played significant roles, suggesting that these men seek partners who are not only pleasing in appearance but also motivated and goal-oriented.
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25–34 Years
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Top Traits: Body Shape/Height/Appearance (27.54%), Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (23.19%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (18.84%), Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (15.94%), Social/Outgoing/Extroverted (14.49%)
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Men aged 25–34 placed the highest importance on Body Shape/Height/Appearance, emphasizing physical attractiveness. Alongside this, they increasingly prioritized Traits like Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and Passion/Drive/Ambition. This shift toward appreciating personal drive and emotional generosity indicates a maturing perspective that balances aesthetic appeal with substantive personal qualities as they move toward more settled life stages.
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35–44 Years
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Top Traits: Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (26.98%), Body Shape/Height/Appearance (25.40%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (15.87%), Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (15.87%), Intuitive/Good Instinct/Emotionally Intelligent (15.87%)
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Men in this age group had a balanced preference for body Shape/Height/Appearance and Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness. While humor/wit/cleverness and ambition remained important, the emerging importance placed on Intuition/Good Instinct/Emotional intelligence underscores a growing desire for emotionally connected partners as men enter a more reflective phase of life.
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45–54 Years
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Top Traits: Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (28.26%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (23.91%), Sexual/Sensual (19.57%), Intelligent/Sharp/Quick-Thinking (15.22%), Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered (13.04%)
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Men aged 45–54 placed the highest importance on Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and Humor/Wit/Cleverness, suggesting an appreciation for compassion and a lively personality. Sexuality/Sensuality also ranked highly, alongside Intelligence/Sharpness/Quick-Thinking, reflecting a blend of desires for physical and mental connection. The increased importance of Traits like being Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered indicates a preference for calm and comforting qualities in partners, signifying a shift toward desiring peaceful and stable interactions as they navigate midlife.
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55–64 Years
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Top Traits: Body Shape/Height/Appearance (26.53%), Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (24.49%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (20.41%), Soft-Spoken/Shy/Introverted (14.29%), Sexual/Sensual (14.29%)
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Men aged 55–64 showed a balanced preference for Body Shape/Height/Appearance and Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness. Humor/wit/cleverness remained significant, and there was an increased appreciation for Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered and Sensual/Sexual partners, reflecting a nuanced approach to intimacy and companionship.
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65+
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Top Traits: Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (24.14%), Body Shape/Height/Appearance (20.69%), Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered (20.69%), Soft-Spoken/Shy/Introverted (17.24%), Sexual/Sensual (17.24%)
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Older men aged 65 and above highly prioritized Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness, alongside a notable appreciation for Body Shape/Height/Appearance, each reflecting enduring priorities in relationships. Traits such as being Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered were equally favored, pointing to a preference for calm and gentle partners. Additionally, the importance of Sensuality/Sexuality suggests a continued desire for emotional warmth and physical closeness, underscoring the significance of companionship in their later years.
Top Traits for Women – By Age Group
Women’s preferences in partners evolve significantly with age, reflecting shifting relationship priorities and personal growth. Young women (18–24) prioritized Humor/Wit/Cleverness and Passion/Drive/Ambition, highlighting a preference for partners who are engaging and determined. For women aged 25–34, Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and emotional depth become more important, balancing the earlier focus on physical attractiveness. By midlife (35–54), the emphasis shifts to emotional intelligence and kindness, indicating a preference for emotionally rich and supportive relationships. Women over 55 continue to value kindness and humor but place an increasing importance on traits that contribute to stability and peace, such as being easygoing and intellectually stimulating. In their older years, older women prioritize companionship and emotional warmth, seeking partners who are compassionate and comforting. This progression illustrates a shift from valuing dynamic and appealing traits in youth to cherishing deep, stable, and supportive connections in later life.
18–24 Years
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Top Traits: Humorous/Witty/Clever (25%), Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (22.22%), Body Shape/Height/Appearance (22.22%), Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (16.67%), Social/Outgoing/Extroverted (13.89%)
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Young women aged 18–24 placed high importance on Humor/Wit/Cleverness and passion/drive/ambition, reflecting a preference for partners who are both engaging and goal-oriented. Body Shape/Height/Appearance is equally prioritized, pointing to a desire for aesthetic appeal in partners. Traits such as Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and Social/Outgoing/Extroversion were also featured prominently, indicating that compassion and a vibrant social demeanor were key qualities young women seek in relationships.
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25–34 Years
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Top Traits: Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (27.78%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (24.31%), Body Shape/Height/Appearance (17.36%), Open-Minded/Curious/Free-Spirited (16.67%), Intuitive/Good Instinct/Emotional Intelligence (13.89%)
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Women aged 25–34 placed the highest importance on generosity/thoughtfulness/kindness and humor/wit/cleverness, showing a strong preference for partners who are both kind-hearted and engaging. Traits like Intuition/Good Instinct/Emotional intelligence and Open-Mindedness/Curiosity/Free Spirit were also significantly prioritized. Body Shape/Height/Appearance, though still important, was less prioritized, indicating a shift toward more substantive qualities in potential partners, highlighting a mature and balanced approach to relationships.
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35–44 Years
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Top Traits: Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (27.27%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (26.26%), Body Shape/Height/Appearance (19.19%), Social/Outgoing/Extroverted (14.14%), Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (13.13%)
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Women aged 35–44 highly appreciated Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and Humor/Wit/Cleverness, demonstrating a clear preference for partners who are both kind and engaging. Traits like Social/Outgoing/Extroversion and Passion/Drive/Ambition were also important, indicating a desire for partners who are confident, outspoken, and driven. Body Shape/Height/Appearance, while still significant, was complemented by a demand for personal qualities that suggest a lively and caring character, showing a preference for a well-rounded partner who balances attractiveness with dynamic social and personal Traits.
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45–54 Years
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Top Traits: Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (23.91%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (23.91%), Body Shape/Height/Appearance (18.48%), Intelligent/Sharp/Quick-Thinking (18.48%), Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered (15.22%)
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Women aged 45–54 equally prioritized Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and Humor/Wit/Cleverness, emphasizing a strong preference for partners who are both compassionate and entertaining. Body Shape/Height/Appearance and Intelligence/Sharpness/Quick-Thinking Traits also held considerable importance, suggesting a continued appreciation for attractiveness coupled with mental acuity. The importance placed on being Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered indicated a preference for partners who bring a calming presence, highlighting a desire for well-rounded companionship that balances kindness, wit, and intellectual engagement.
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55–64 Years
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Top Traits: Humorous/Witty/Clever (26.67%), Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (24%), Intelligent/Sharp/Quick-Thinking (18.67%), Body Shape/Height/Appearance (16%), Intuitive/Good Instinct/Emotionally Intelligent (14.67%)
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Women aged 55–64 placed the highest importance on humor/wit/cleverness and generosity/thoughtfulness/kindness, emphasizing their preference for partners who are both engaging and compassionate. Intelligence/Sharpness/Quick-Thinking and Intuition/Good Instinct/Emotional Intelligence also ranked prominently, underlining a strong appreciation for mental sharpness and emotional depth. While Body Shape/Height/Appearance remained important, it was not as prioritized as the ability to connect intellectually and emotionally, indicating a shift toward deeper, more substantive qualities in partners during this stage of life.
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65+
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Top Traits: Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (30.77%), Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered, Social/Outgoing/Extroverted (23.08%), (15.38%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (15.38%), Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (15.38%)
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Older women aged 65 and over placed the greatest importance on Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness, highlighting a preference for partners who are compassionate and caring. Sociability/Outgoingness/Extroversion was also highly prized, reflecting a desire for partners who are open and engaging. Humor/Wit/Cleverness and a Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered disposition were equally important, indicating an appreciation for partners who can offer lightheartedness along with a calming presence. Passion/Drive/Ambition, still prioritized, suggests a continued admiration for partners who are purpose-driven and passionate, underscoring a preference for relationships that are both emotionally rich and intellectually vibrant.
Top Traits for Men – By Relationship Status
While physical appearance is consistently a priority for men across different relationship stages, its importance varies depending on the context. In ongoing relationships and when men initiate breakups, traits like body shape, height, and appearance are highly valued, suggesting that physical attraction plays a crucial role in maintaining interest or driving decisions. However, during mutual breakups or temporary separations, emotional qualities such as generosity, kindness, and thoughtfulness take precedence, indicating a shift toward valuing emotional depth and compassion when relationships become strained. Humor and intelligence also emerge as important, particularly in mutual breakups, reflecting the desire for mental stimulation and positive interaction. Traits like introversion, mild-mannered behavior, and social extroversion surface in various contexts, showing a need for either calmness or social engagement based on the relationship’s dynamic. Overall, men seek a balance between physical attraction and emotional connection, but emotional traits gain prominence during relationship challenges.
'We are currently together'
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Top Traits: Body Shape/Height/Physical Appearance (24.44%), Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (23.33%), Intuitive/Good instinct/Emotionally Intelligent (16.67%), Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (16.67%)
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In ongoing relationships, men placed a strong emphasis on Body Shape/Height/Physical Appearance, but they were also highly attracted to Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness. This balance suggests that men in stable relationships appreciated both physical attraction and emotional warmth. Traits such as emotional intelligence and ambition were also important, indicating that men wanted partners who were emotionally attuned and driven, contributing to a well-rounded and fulfilling relationship dynamic.
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'It was a mutual breakup'
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Top Traits: Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (30.34%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (23.60%), Intelligent/Sharp/Quick-Thinking (16.85%), Sexual/Sensual (14.61%), Body Shape/Height/Appearance (14.61%)
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After a mutual breakup, men appreciated Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness the most, indicating a continued appreciation for compassion, even in the face of separation. Humor and intelligence were also highly regarded, reflecting the importance of mental stimulation and positive interaction. While Body Shape/Height/Physical Appearance and Sexuality/Sensuality were still valued, they took a secondary role, suggesting that emotional and intellectual Traits are more critical when reflecting on the relationship’s end.
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'I broke up with him/her'
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Top Traits: Body Shape/Height/Physical Appearance (31.25%), Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (18.75%), Sexual/Sensual (18.75%), Social/Outgoing/Extroverted (15.62%)
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Men who initiated the breakup placed the highest importance on physical appearance, which may have played a key role in their decision. Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and sexual chemistry are also significant, pointing to a need for both emotional connection and physical attraction. The importance of social traits like extroversion suggests that men who end relationships may be seeking partners who are not only attractive but also socially engaging and lively.
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'He/She broke up with me'
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Top Traits: Body Shape/Height/Appearance (28.74%), Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (23.81%), Sexual/Sensual (21.43%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (14.29%), Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (11.9%)
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When men are on the receiving end of a breakup, they continue to prioritize Body Shape/Height/Physical Appearance highly, indicating that attractiveness remains a key concern. However, traits such as Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness are also highly regarded, suggesting a desire for warmth and empathy that may have been lacking. Sexual chemistry and humor are important as well, reflecting the need for both physical and emotional connections in a successful relationship.
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'We are currently on a "break"'
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Top Traits: Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (25%), Soft-Spoken/Shy/Introverted (20%), Body Shape/Height/Appearance (20%), Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered (20%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (15%)
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In this group, men prioritized Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness. Traits like introversion and mild-mannered behavior are also favored, indicating a preference for calm, easygoing interactions. Physical appearance remains important, as does a sense of humor, which could indicate a desire for fun and easygoingness. Overall, these priorities reflect a desire for emotional comfort and connection, regardless of the temporary separation.
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Top Traits for Women – By Relationship Status
Across various relationship statuses, Humor/Wittiness/Cleverness and Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness consistently emerge as the most important Traits for women, underscoring the importance of emotional connection and positivity. In ongoing relationships, women also emphasized body Shape/Height/Appearance, Passion/Drive/Ambition, and Open-Mindedness/Curiosity/Free Spirit, indicating that attraction, personal drive, and intellectual curiosity contribute to a stable and fulfilling partnership. After a mutual breakup, sociability and being Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered gain significance, suggesting that women appreciate harmonious interactions and social engagement, even when relationships end. Women who initiate breakups emphasize Intelligence/Sharpness/Quick-Thinking, Sensuality/Sexuality, and Humor/Wittiness/Cleverness, highlighting the need for mental engagement and emotional warmth. When women are broken up with, Body Shape/Height/Appearance and Intuition/Good Instinct/Emotional Intelligence become more prominent, reflecting a desire for attraction and emotional depth. During a break, Sensuality/Sexuality plays a larger role, indicating a focus on resolving relationship issues through physical and emotional reconnection.
'We are currently together'
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Top Traits: Humorous/Witty/Clever (25.79%), Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (25.26%), Body Shape/Height/Physical Appearance (22.63%), Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (14.74%), Open-Minded/Curious/Free-Spirited (11.58%)
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In ongoing relationships, women placed a high emphasis on Humor/Wittiness/Cleverness and Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness, indicating that a partner’s ability to make them laugh and show compassion was central to maintaining their connection. Body Shape/Height/Appearance was also important, suggesting that attraction played a significant role. Passion/Drive/Ambition was appreciated, while an Open-Minded/Free-Spirited Nature contributed to a well-rounded and stable relationship dynamic.
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'It was a mutual breakup'
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Top Traits: Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (29.29%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (25.25%), Open-Minded/Curious/Free-Spirited (16.16%), Social/Outgoing/Extroverted (15.15%), Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered (14.14%)
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Following a mutual breakup, women continued to cherish Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and Humor/Wittiness/Cleverness, suggesting that these Traits remained important for maintaining positive interactions, even in separation. Open-Mindedness/Curiosity/Free-Spiritedness and sociability were also significant, indicating that intellectual and social connections were important and perhaps lacking in the relationship. While Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered nature was appreciated, these Traits did not outweigh the need for deeper emotional and intellectual compatibility.
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'I broke up with him/her'
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Top Traits: Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (24.21%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (23.16%), Intelligent/Sharp/Quick-Thinking (22.11%), Sexual/Sensual (16.84%), Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (13.68%)
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Women who initiated the breakup placed a high emphasis on Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and Humor/Wittiness/Cleverness, indicating that the absence of these Traits may have contributed to their decision. Intelligence/Sharpness/Quick-Thinking and Sensuality/Sexuality were also significant factors, suggesting that both mental engagement and physical attraction played roles in the relationship’s dynamics. However, these qualities may not have been sufficient to sustain the relationship if other critical elements were missing.
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'He/She broke up with me'
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Top Traits: Humorous/Witty/Clever (29.27%), Body Shape/Height/Physical Appearance (24.39%), Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (21.95%), Passionate/Driven/Ambitious (12.20%), Intuitive/Good Instinct/Emotionally Intelligent (12.20%)
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When women were on the receiving end of a breakup, they placed high emphasis on Humor/Wittiness/Cleverness and Body Shape/Height/Appearance, suggesting that these Traits were important for maintaining attraction and emotional connection. Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and Passion/Drive/Ambition were also significant. Intuition/Good Instinct/Emotional Intelligence was appreciated.
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'We are currently on a "break"'
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Top Traits: Generous/Thoughtful/Kind (25%), Soft-Spoken/Shy/Introverted (20%), Body Shape/Height/Appearance (20%), Beta/Easygoing/Mild-Mannered (20%), Humorous/Witty/Clever (15%)
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During a break, women place the highest value on Generosity/Thoughtfulness/Kindness and Humor/Wittiness/Cleverness, indicating a need for emotional support and positivity during this uncertain time. Sexuality/Sensuality is also important, suggesting that physical connection may be a focus in resolving relationship issues. Body Shape/Height/Appearance remained a factor, but it took a secondary role as women navigated the complexities of the relationship during this period of reflection.​